Attraction doesn’t occur out of obligation. We can’t make them want us by being overly nice, or giving them gifts or love or our attention. GIVING it to them for nothing is not attractive. Reciprocity doesn’t build attraction….

In any case… only when she puts US up on a pedestal will she feel a deep desire to suck our dicks, please us and worship us.

This means we have to approach building her attraction differently. We have to see ourselves as the prize, as the goal, and not the other way around. We have to believe truly that we’re awesome boyfriend material and that we shouldn’t waste our energy on women undeserving of us.

It’s not that we see ourselves as better than others, it’s just that we see ourselves as worthy, valuable and rare. And I don’t me we think these things… we have to BE these things.

Learning this changed my approach to women and dating.

I then learned to tease and flirt with women, but always from a place of abundance and endless opportunity. Meaning, every woman I met that I was super attracted to was a fine individual… but in my gut I knew that she was just one in thousands I could choose from. And if she really wanted to be with me she would have to be worthy.

And if she didn’t chase me a little I’d lose interest and move on as fast as possible. Not in a rude way of course, just in a “I think I need more so I’m moving on” sorta way. I’d back off, become distracted, and I’d move on.

THIS is EXACTLY what super models do, or women of high value. They KNOW their own value and they don’t waste their time being chased by dudes because needy desperate dudes are a dine a dozen. Dudes who are hard to get, who value themselves, those are the dudes super models chase.

And that needs to be YOU.

SOooooooooo…… what I’m saying is this….

The minute I get the sense that some girl isn’t interested in me, I lose interest and RUN the other way. Because I don’t have time for games or chasing someone. I just have better things to do. I have other more interesting women to pursue.

This girl you’re describing is not girlfriend material.

And if you don’t have someone else lined up to flirt with, then that’s just poor planning.

If you’re passively sitting on the sidelines waiting for women to come to you, then you’re fooling yourself. Even being super handsome isn’t enough. You MUST practice talking to women, being assertive and going after what you WANT.

Not chasing women, but being willing to approach them in order to meet them and open them in conversation.

Sometimes there are situations where a girl has placed us in the Friend Zone, and in that case we CAN learn to seduce our way out and into a romantic relationship. 

Seeing a hot blonde at the coffee shop is the PERFECT way to practice this… by going over, making small talk, making jokes, asking her what she’s eating, asking her about herself, and finding out if she’s as fun as you hope.

And if she’s single saying, “I enjoyed meeting you today! Hey, join me for a proper coffee, I’d like to get to know you a little more… you know, find out if you’re as intersting as you seem to be! How about tomorrow night after dinner, I know a real cool place downtown we can meet.”

It doesn’t even matter if she says yes or no, it’s about learning the social skills.

What I’m saying is “it doesn’t matter if theres any attraction” still possible with this girl. She’s clearly moved on, so you should as well.

Don’t waste time trying to recover. You’re not a homeless man begging for change, so stop acting like it. Chasing a lost cause is embarrassing and pathetic and shows signs of insecurity and lack of confidence. And that’s not you.

Instead remind yourself of your value, that there’s a billion other single women worth meeting, and that your time is valuable. Don’t waste it any more chasing dreams. Find some “sure things” who chase you, and nurture those relationships.

You deserve to see how it feels to be worshiped and adored. But you have to build your relationships that way… where they chase you and where you reward that good behaviour with your love and attention.

I hope this makes sense and that it helps!

~ Robby