Problem: Light-Skinned Points.
Wait. I see some people wondering what I mean by light-skinned points. Let us define.
Light-skinned point(s). noun. 1) the additional attention that fairer skinned light skinned women receive over their darker-skinneded sisters whether or not their face actually warrants any attention at all. 2) the assumed increase in attractiveness laid before melanin deficient black women…whether or not their face actually warrants any attention at all.
I’ve always thought this was a funny phenomenon. I mean, even the most busted light women get a lot of attention. Whether you’re on the subway or just walking down the street, the light skinned women with a hairline that starts in Australia will get attention. Even George Benson asked for the light.
(Actually he asked for the night, but it rhymed with light. Run with it. Call me now!)
It has to be frustrating for attractive dark skinned women. And for the record, you are not attractive if the only person who has called you attractive is your mother and your reflection. You can put 9 dark-skinned fine women in a room with one light skinned Gremlin and I’d be willing to bet that most men would say that the light skinned woman was the most attractive woman in the room. And that is emblematic of the problem in the black community — we place lightskinned people on a pedestal. Well, mostly women since everybody knows that lightskinned men went out of style back in the early 90’s.
I suppose you could just make the connection that light skinned women are closer to white women, thus the black mans innate desire for white women is the culprit here. And I guess that has merit. Which would then explain the hate that a lot of light skinned women receive from other black women since black men love them some light chicks and dark chicks know that causing them to hate on their light sisters who can at times be assholes about the fact that they get a lot of love from black men. Not always, as I know some light chicks who hate the light attention as much as dark chicks do. Which is kind of interesting if you think about it. If you are a light chick who gets a lot of sweats from black men and you know that light skinned women do indeed get points, and you hate the points you get for being light skinnt so much so that you wish you didn’t get the points…how do you reconcile that? Does it stop light chicks from being proud of who they are??
It’s like intra-race reverse affirmative action.
Slavery really did a number on us didn’t it? Some of the self-hate that a lot of us are caught up in has translated into our love for the light. A lot of us hate ourselves. We hate our skin cuz its black, we hate black pepper, we hate midnight, and black ball point pens. Hell, there are some black folks reading this right now who hate what I’m saying cuz the text is showing up black. Psychologically we get so caught up in light versus dark in our community (and you better believe its still an issue) that we offer solace to light-skinned women who would in NO way ever get points if life made sense.
[***DISCLAIMER #1: I'm aware that all men don't go straight for light-skinned women. But facts and videos don't lie to us. ***]
Which brings up another point. In an ideal world, dark skinned women could be video ho*s urban models. That’s actually the saddest and funniest part of the entire debate. We always hear about all the light skinned women in videos — which just so happen to be the same videos that so many women rail against. The same videos that exploit women to the fullest are the very ones that many darker women get upset about not being able to participate in. Strange, strange world we live in.
And really, that’s what its all about, equal opportunity in my videos.
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